"A healthy relationship is not “two becoming one”. That is a recipe for disaster.
A healthy relationship is two people who stay together because they want to. They are free to walk away at any point. Not just free to do so, but capable of doing so on every level, and yet they make that choice to stay together everyday. You can’t put that kind of commitment on a license. You can’t have that kind of commitment between two people who need each other. You can only have that kind of commitment between two fully independent individuals who love each other enough to give it a go, another day, and another day, and another day after that."
By, Lisa M. Hayes